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Much of CAADE’s reputation over the past 15 years has been gleaned from its Counseling and guidance services. If you say to someone in need ‘Can I help?’ You must be prepared to. From those three simple words you can change a person’s life completely - a very frightening proposition. You have already given yourself the responsibility of commitment. Anything averse to this and you have let someone down.
This does not mean that you can actually ‘always’ help - of course you can’t. But the very act of ‘genuinely’ trying can be enough to help. We have found that some of the suffers from ‘age discrimination’, who contact us daily, have developed deep isolation, a condition that defies reason in an otherwise alert mind. The first thing we address is this ‘isolation’. For many senior white collar workers in particular the sudden, all consuming jolt in job cessation throws them into an consuming vacuum that can, if not halted, make them quite ill with despair.
The loss of pride, job satisfaction and separation from your natural networks quickly becomes a good reason to isolate yourself - watch daytime television from dawn till dusk, avoid telephone calls, cancel the papers etc. It has happened to so many - you are not at all on your own. When the unbelievable certainty of ‘age discrimination’ is added to your equation - you need to talk to somebody - anybody.
The facts of life as they are, we can always change. It often takes a second party to point out the obvious. A little clear thinking and another viewpoint can reinvigorate your old determination to overcome your present difficulties and start off again - one step at a time.
Counseling is not a secret art. Someone talking, another listening - an opening up of the heart and mind. We do it every day in a perfectly natural manner with our spouses and work colleagues. When we face the uncertainties of unemployment and age discrimination, two of the hardest challenges we will ever face, there often seems to be no-one who could possibly understand.
Don’t endeavour to be ‘alone’ and ‘un-helped’. It doesn’t work. Talk! use those well developed skills of yours to re-invent yourself. To reinforce your self-counselling - talk to someone else - but, someone you can trust!
CAADE has collected over 6000 case histories over the years. Some unbelievable real life stories of ‘shock’ felt through age discrimination.
Philip and Bernice Walker (founders of CAADE)
The CAADE Centre Charity (Established 1988, formalised 1992)
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